2012 was a decent year for me. In fact, I would even say it has been the best year of my life so far. Nothing earth-shattering happened, nothing life-changing occurred, and that within itself is what made it amazing.

There was no drama, no huge revelations, no deep, dark, sinister, depressions. I can totally dig more years like that!

Here's a list of what I learned this year.

I do not have to punish myself for being the person that I used to be. Punishing myself does not resolve me of the things that I did in the past. The only thing that I can do is live better, and I am.

Practicing epic self care has changed my life. There's a difference between knowing self care and implementing it into your daily life. This year I began to practice what I preached and it's been amaaaazing.

I realized that I'm a freakin' control freak. It is funny that I really didn't notice it before, seeing as how my word of the year was "Surrender". Letting go of control is something that I am still working on. Not being attached to outcomes is a hard thing to learn, which is what I've learned!

Other people's opinions about my body are irrelevant. It's easy to know it, but it's hard to let it sink in, but it's truth. People can say what they want. Their words don't matter. When I look in the mirror I truly love what I see now. It was a harder journey than I wanted it to be.

I have learned that I need to listen to myself more often. I've always had a habit of letting other people's opinions have more weight than my own, but that's truly no way to live. I'm much happier when I listen to what my heart tells me to do in all things. That's when you really start to become authentic.

I can let go of the people that don't belong in my life. I am not obligated to keep them. They do not  inherently deserve a spot in my life just because. If they earned that spot in the past, it doesn't mean they get to keep it forever. I deserve to have people in my life out of love, not obligation.

When you love who you are and when you embrace your self-confidence, amazing things happen around you. People are drawn to you in a way that they are not drawn to other people. It's a pretty amazing thing to realize people like you for liking yourself and it freaks me out a little bit too, hermit that I am.

Speaking my truth, about not having babies, about my past experiences, about my depression, it all has had it's purpose. A wonderful purpose of letting others know that they are not alone. Sharing my story is something that I have lost the fear of doing.

I've learned that being the main character in my own story is way better than just being a supporting one. I was always putting other people first, it was always about them and never about me. Allowing my life to be about me and what I want? Best thing ever.

Will you share with me one thing that you've learned this year?



9 comments :

  1. One thing I've learned this year: Slowing down. Sometimes it's good to take a day of rest. Also, I'm having a giveaway at my blog, I'm sure you will love it. :) Have great holidays sis!

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  2. Do what *you* love, do what *you* want. Listen to yourself and trust that, deeply. It's a good thing to know, it's far better to know and then do.

    Practice and master doing.

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  3. I was tripping along have a wonderful year until about the end of April when something came to light. There was a situation I had repressed for years that I'd convinced myself I was "over" when it turns I out I hadn't really dealt with it at all... so I've spent the remainder of the year in deep depression trying to deal with it and not making much headway. Therefore my word for 2013 is "forward", inspired by the Obama campaign slogan. My only real resolution in '13 is to learn how to move forward once and for all. Blessings to you in the upcoming year! Love, D

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  4. I've learned more this year about my Voice than ever before. Still learning!



    PS Dominee - you rock! I love watching you grow into an incredible and stupendous woman!!

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  5. Need to have some kind of fun everyday!!

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  6. if things are 'meant to be' they fall into place. Everything that shouldn't be in our lives has a way of falling away from us. As hard as this can be - it can be a great purification!

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  7. I am a border in a horrible way. Getting my house clean and having a mental break down at having someone in my house at the time. Really don't like people, and seriously don't like them in my space. :-)

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  8. Thank you for sharing Dominee. This year for me has been mostly about reclaiming my self...still going but I feel so proud of every little step I take to reclaim ME. You should be too. xxx

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  9. To me it sounds like it has been an amazing year! Lovely post <3

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