One of the things I always struggled with when I was younger was time. I felt like it always took me too much time. It took me too long to make friends, it took me too long to think of the right things to say in social situations, too long to fall in love or fall out of love, too long to make up my mind, to make life decisions. So much wasted time dealing with grief or sadness or stress.

I wondered why it took me so long to deal with things, to get over them, when it seemed like everyone else just flipped a switch and everything was fine. I know that's not true now. I know that we are resilient and that some people do bounce back faster than others, but just because it looks like someone has it all together doesn't mean they do.

We can't judge ourselves by how someone else operates, especially when looking at it from the outside.

The only thing we can do is honor ourselves and our journey. We all have different operating systems, we can't force them to go faster, we just gotta take our time. It's ours to take and no one else's.

I wanted to share with you a lovely message from the Gaia Oracle Card Deck by Toni Carmine Salerno which I pulled a card from this morning.

Eternal Dance: Movement, Wheel of Life, Path of least resistance.

“The Lady featured on this card feels completely at one with nature. She is in tune with the rhythm of the Earth and her changing cycles. She does not resist the forces of nature but moves gracefully with the wind. Yet, though her body sways with the wind, she is not swayed from her path, for her feet are firmly planted in the Earth; she remains poised, dignified and balanced."

Let that image sink in for a moment and think about what it means. It is so important to know your foundation and then allow yourself to move with the challenges that come your way, much like in Know When To Bend.

So ask yourself the question:

Where are your feet planted?

Where do you act from? Is it a place of fear or love or what is in your best interest? It's an important question to ask yourself because when you know your Big Why things fall together so much easier!

Happy October my loves! As the year winds down I really want you to turn the focus toward self love and self care. It's such an important recovery tool and such a good way to connect with yourself. I wanted to share with you some really wonderful and easy Autumn Self Love tips. One of the traditional Autumn themes is that of letting go and releasing those things that are no longer good for you. Also enjoyment. Pure, absolute enjoyment, that's a really important part too.

Start every morning in a loving manner. You have no idea how important it is that you wake up on the right side of the bed, it sets the tone for the whole day. Try to keep those "Ugh I don't wanna get up and this day sucks" thoughts to a minimum. Be grateful for a brand new day, be kind to yourself (even when you wake up grumpy), and let yourself embrace The Happy.

As the temperatures wind down make a conscious effort to dress for comfort and to wear things you are in love with. Find a nice pair of comfy pajamas to slip into the minute you walk into the door. Buy a brand new hoody to chase away the chill. Find clothes that make you happy and make you feel good. 

Happy Autumn Equinox, Mabon, first day of Autumn, time of hoodies and cocoa and warm blankets. The best time of the year (in my humble opinion). Am I the only one that gets really contemplative around this time? I realize that time is running out. All of the things I want to accomplish this year have only three short months left in which to do it.

I also start thinking about all of the many paths my feet have tread this year and how I have ended up where I am right now. It's so interesting to look back and see how much we have changed in a nine month span. Amazing things happen!

Are you where you wanted to be?

It's been my experience that when you have anxiety you do one of two things: You give up your control or you cling to it for dear life.

There's a lot of wisdom in the advice of letting go, of surrendering, of allowing things to happen just as they are supposed to, to unfold naturally and to hope that the odds are ever in your favor.

But that's really freakin' hard.

Surrendering and letting go does work. It's freeing and beautiful and so many times it has allowed me to stop. Take a really deep breath. And just inherently know that everything is going to work out. It's so freeing and I absolutely love that feeling. However, letting go doesn't come easily. It's something that I have to re-learn over and over again, something that I need to remind myself of in the moment. Something that takes work for me.