It's been my experience that when you have anxiety you do one of two things: You give up your control or you cling to it for dear life.

There's a lot of wisdom in the advice of letting go, of surrendering, of allowing things to happen just as they are supposed to, to unfold naturally and to hope that the odds are ever in your favor.

But that's really freakin' hard.

Surrendering and letting go does work. It's freeing and beautiful and so many times it has allowed me to stop. Take a really deep breath. And just inherently know that everything is going to work out. It's so freeing and I absolutely love that feeling. However, letting go doesn't come easily. It's something that I have to re-learn over and over again, something that I need to remind myself of in the moment. Something that takes work for me.

Hello m'dear! How're you today? Hopefully good, I'm sending blessings and big hugs your way, I think the world needs a little bit more of that!

Today's oracle card reading comes from the Angels, Gods, and Goddesses deck and is the Angel of Prayer.

Ask the Universe and the Angels for help and guidance.

Raise your hand if you have trouble asking for help. (I'm raising my hand right now) Now when it comes to  Deity I'm a pretty big pray-er. I pray everyday, sometimes just a prayer of thanks or a prayer of iloveyousomuch, but very rarely do I ask for help.

Autumn is nearly upon us and as I breathe in the cooling temperatures and the hazy mornings I find myself slowing down just a bit. Summer feels like energy to me. It feels like a time to get things done and move and be active and to sweat. Autumn feels the exact opposite and I've always been in love with that slow laziness I feel falling around me like leaves.

Drifting, drifting, drifting.

I am reminded of the beauty of stillness, of softness, of taking things slow. When I'm doing yoga (which I've been keeping up with lately, go me!) I love the slow way my body moves from pose to pose. I feel it throughout my body, it doesn't just happen, it's experienced and savored.

Being in the moment is such a lovely feeling.

You are a beautiful woman
And you may scoff and roll your eyes
With a list of "but"s at the ready
But that doesn't make it a lie

You can name those things you don't like
Your belly is too big and your breasts are too small
Your thighs touch and your teeth are crooked
But those things are too small to contain your beauty

Each week I like to make inspirational-like graphics for the Facebook page. In case you've missed them or you aren't on Facebook, here ya go! Feel free to share, pin, download, print out, whatever your lovely heart desires!

I had a crap week. I had to deal with a situation at work that challenged so many aspects of my self. When someone offends you and is inappropriate towards you how do you react? In the past I would have buried my head in the sand, tried to pretend it didn't happen, while feeling shame and beating myself up about it.

It's really hard sticking up for yourself sometimes. 

I don't like rocking the boat. I don't like causing problems. I don't like being forced to stick up for myself. Maybe you understand how my little shy and introverted heart works and how hard it is to stand up and tell the world that something is not okay. I'm learning though, every year I become more confident in who I am and what I deserve.

Today we have a guest post from the fabulous Jo over at the Twisted Sleeve! Not only is she sharing her wisdom with us but she's also giving us an almost 50% discount on DIY Self-Esteem: How To Start Liking Yourself! if you use the discount code: BLESSINGMANIFESTING by midnight on August 24th MST!

Without further ado, here she is!

Just over a year ago, I resented my slight resemblance to Matt Lucas. I wished away my practically see-through eyelashes. I tore into myself for taking about half an hour to park in a multi-storey car park. I wasn’t my biggest fan.

Fast-forward to now. I smile at my lack of spatial awareness because I see it as a trade-off for being good at writing. I don’t worry about my eyelashes but focus on my growing muscles. I laugh when my friends joke about my looking like Matt Lucas because I can’t look that bad when so many people compliment me on my smile. I like myself.

In just one year, I’ve gone from beating myself up on a daily basis to smiling my way through the week because I’m just so “me”. In this post I’d like to pass on my tips for doing the same thing yourself.

I'm sitting here in my jammies eating orange sherbet and watching the Golden Girls (A Piece of Cake) to celebrate my birthday. Whoohoo, celebration! Later today I'm going to have lunch with my bestie and his three kids at my favorite restaurant, (not gonna lie, it's Burger King) and revel in their energy and laughter.

I spent a lot of time last night reflecting on where I am and where I've been and wearing I'm going. This last year I've done a lot of growing up, more than I thought I had left to do really. Don't you love when you have it all figured out right up until you don't? While those challenges and changes were on the whole, rather unpleasant, they were all desperately needed. I enter my 29th year feeling grateful and joyful and happy to be here.

Here's a message I think we all need to hear.

Happy birthday. You've made it through another 365 days of loving, living, laughter, and tears. It seems unbelievable that so many life experiences can be held in something so passing as a day, yet those experiences do not pass. They sink inside of your skin, slowly molding and transforming you into who you are.

You are an extraordinaire human being. The years that you have lived have changed the course of the world for so many. Do not ever doubt that you've made a difference, a good difference, a needed impact on the world around you. Your presence has touched lives. No difference made is too small.

Is it just me or has there been some really amazing body positive music coming out lately? Not just inspiring lyrics but videos that really showcase different body types? It's bad-ass and it makes me so happy to live in a world that is embracing all types of bodies and body acceptance. It's so re-affirming to see different bodies represented in the media. I remember the first time I saw someone with my body type on tv as a teen, it's sad that it sticks out isn't it?

We still have a ways to go. I would love more emphasis on all body types being equally worthy and sexy but the fact that body inclusivity is part of the conversation is great. I hope for the day that we can all look at each other, as women, and not see how we are "supposed" to be, but instead see how we are and acknowledge it as beautiful in all of its varieties.

I wanted to share some of my favorite jams and I want you to share yours!

Colbie Caillat - Try

Stand Out Lyrics: Why, should you care, what they think of you? When you're all alone, by yourself, do you like you?

India.Arie - Video

Stand Out Lyrics: My feet, my thighs, my lips, my eyes, I’m loving what I see.

Mary Lambert - I Know Girls

Stand Out Lyrics: Our bodies deserve more than to be war-torn and collateral.

Freckles - Natasha Bedingfield

Stand Out Lyrics: Why waste a second not loving who you are? Those little imperfections make you beautiful, lovable, valuable.

Sara Bareilles - Brave

Stand Out Lyrics:  Honestly I wanna see you be brave with what you want to say.

Meghan Trainor - All About That Bass

Stand Out Lyrics: Cause every inch of you is perfect from the bottom to the top.

John Legend - You & I (Nobody In The World)

Stand Out Lyrics:  You fix your make up, just so, guess you don't know, that you're beautiful.

Firework - Katy Perry (Boyce Avenue cover; my favorite version)

Stand Out Lyrics: You don't have to feel like a wasted space you're original, cannot be replaced.

Which is your favorite? Do you have any to add?

Without further ado, here's a post from the lovely Danielle Yeager.

Most of us experienced a love-hate relationship with our bodies throughout our life. You started out not even thinking about your body; you just used it. You learned how to move, to run, to jump, and to play with your body’s help.

Then you started to feel awkward in your own body. It changed and has continued to change as you have gotten older. You became more aware of what you look like and, more importantly, how you feel about what you look like. You looked at another’s body and judged them for being too fat or too skinny, too short or too tall, but mostly you were judging yourself. You started hiding your body, avoiding clothing that showed your insecurities. But you do know what it feels like to love your body. You have looked in the mirror on a good day and thought “hot damn girl” or you got a compliment that made you hold your head a little higher.

So why aren’t you holding on to those feelings? Why do the negative feelings seem to dominate? Because you have been letting them. Not to worry love, I can help.